Some of the things I find most interesting in people are:
- What they’ve tried
- What they’ve failed at
- What they’ve learned
- What they enjoy
In the most interesting people I know, item four stems directly from the first three. And each of those stems directly from the one before it. Try something, make a mistake, learn, then weed out the stuff you enjoy.
The most interesting people I know seem to have the following two traits in common:
• Willingness to fail (or injure themselves, I guess, as a type of failure)
That’s really it. You don’t need anything else.
So why is it that so many people are so fucking dull?
It’s because the majority of their knowledge comes from people more interesting than they are. It comes from listening to people’s stories. From PBS. From The Discovery Channel.
If your story starts, “I once saw this show about a guy who…,” I’d rather be talking to the guy who, not you.
Sorry not sorry.
So, my dog. He sleeps a lot. Typically I’m asleep six to eight hours, so I’ll guess he’s asleep for four to six of those. During my nine-hour work shift, he’s asleep about six hours. During the other seven to nine hours of the day, if I’m home, he’s asleep at least five. We’re looking at 15 hours or more of sleep a day.
It must be exhausting being a dog.
Then again, I can see that it is. Dude checks out everything. Everything. He smells my pants as I put them on – no, really, I’ll be sliding my right leg in and his nose is pressed up against my left knee – if a leaf blows across the yard, he investigates. He checks out the tree and the mailbox post on our front lawn at the beginning and end of a walk.
Each ingredient we pull from the refrigerator; every hammer, screwdriver or wrench we pull from the toolbox; every human who comes to the door, Rufus’s nose is there, figuring out what it is and where it’s been.
In fact, right now, he’s sniffing at a closed door because he has to know what’s on the other side.
He’s curious about everything, and he investigates until he’s satisfied.
You, on the other hand, just sit on the couch until you’re satisfied you know enough about some other guy’s trip to the Mojave to be interesting enough at dinner tomorrow to earn another invitation.
Here are some ideas for becoming a more interesting person. Report back if you try any.
1. Learn about something you use every day. Figure out how it works, why it does what it does, what its history is, when people started using it, and how you could make your own. Own that shit. Coffee, pencils, toilets, flowers, I don’t care what it is. Get the first-hand knowledge, do your own research and experimenting.
2. Learn about something you have no interest in. It’s going to come in handy someday. Electrical wiring, gravity, picture frames. Enjoy the process of learning. But do number one first – that you’ll do for the joy of learning about the thing, this one you’ll do for the joy of learning itself.
3. Make something. A website, a sculpture, dinner, a shirt. Do it from scratch. Learn the steps, put it together. If it’s ugly, broken or disgusting, great. You still made it, and you learned something in the process. If it’s amazing, pick something else. Keep making stuff until you fail. Every time you succeed, you put one more thing in your arsenal that you can do. Every time you fail, you put one more thing to improve at on your list.
That should be plenty for you to do for a while. Send me pictures.